Their teenagers are more likely to resist alcohol and drugs
It's the kind of thing most parents do their best to avoid.
But it seems like starting an argument with a teenager might do them some good.
Argumentative adolescents fare better as adults than those who are more placid, researchers found.
Arguing gives teenagers confidence and negotiation skills
Those who regularly fight verbally with their parents cope better with peer pressure and are less likely to abuse drugs or alcohol.
They are also more skillful negotiators and can “learn to be taken more seriously” after a few verbal spars with their elders.
The US researchers concluded that parents should consider actively starting arguments with their teenagers just to hone their children's skills - even if it results in a short-term blowout.
Scientists at the University of Virginia observed and made audio and video recordings of 150 13-year-olds arguing with their mothers.
They then interviewed the teens three years later about their lives and experiences with drugs and alcohol.
Teens who demonstrated confidence and used reasons to support their statements in arguments were more likely to have refused both, the researchers found.
University of Virginia psychology professor Joseph Allen, lead author of the study, said the link between resistance to peer pressure and a teenager's ability to argue was 'surprising'.
He added: 'It turns out that what happens in the family is actually a training ground for teenagers in terms of negotiating with others. ''
Joanna Chango, a clinical psychology graduate working on the study, said that while it seemed 'counterintuitive' to tell parents to let their teenagers argue with them, it was worth considering.
The study, published in the journal Child Development, said parents should have 'good reasons presented in a moderate manner' during the argument to set a good example, instead of slamming doors as the teenager.